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<div id="post-206" class="post-206 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-dementie category-geen-categorie category-zorg tag-mantelzorg tag-palliatieve-zorg tag-zorg-2">
<h2 class="entry-title"><a href="/over-palliatieve-en-mantelzorg/" rel="bookmark">Over palliatieve- en mantelzorg.</a></h2>
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<span class="meta-prep meta-prep-author">Geplaatst op</span> <a href="/over-palliatieve-en-mantelzorg/" title="13:04" rel="bookmark"><span class="entry-date">1 februari 2015</span></a> <span class="meta-sep">door</span> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="/author/paul-jansen/" title="Alle berichten tonen van Paul Jansen">Paul Jansen</a></span> </div><!-- .entry-meta -->
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<p>Helaas worden sommige woorden verkeerd begrepen en daardoor verkeerd gebruikt. Of dat door sommige mensen bedoeld of onbedoeld wordt gedaan laat ik in het midden, hier wil ik alleen even de zaken recht zetten.</p>
<p><a href="/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Mantel.jpg"><img loading="lazy" class="alignleft wp-image-207 size-medium" src="/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Mantel-259x300.jpg" alt="Mantel" width="259" height="300" srcset="/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Mantel-259x300.jpg 259w, /wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Mantel.jpg 400w" sizes="(max-width: 259px) 100vw, 259px" /></a>De begrippen &#8216;palliatieve zorg&#8217; en &#8216;mantelzorg&#8217; zijn in ieder geval taalkundig helemaal gelijk. Het woord &#8216;palliatief&#8217; komt van het Latijnse woord &#8216;pallium&#8217; wat &#8216;mantel&#8217; betekent. Dus mantelzorg en palliatieve zorg hebben letterlijke dezelfde betekenis en wat mij plus betreft ook inhoudelijk.</p>
<p>Inmiddels krijg ik bijval. Vier universiteiten zeggen over de palliatieve zorg in Vlaanderen: &#8220;We moeten dringend van het idee af dat het (palliatieve zorg) alleen om stervensbegeleiding gaat.&#8221; Zij snappen dat. Nou u nog.</p>
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<span class="entry-utility-prep entry-utility-prep-cat-links">Geplaatst in</span> <a href="/category/dementie/" rel="category tag">Dementie</a>, <a href="/category/geen-categorie/" rel="category tag">Geen categorie</a>, <a href="/category/zorg/" rel="category tag">Zorg</a> </span>
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<h2 class="entry-title"><a href="/misleide-empathie/" rel="bookmark">Misleide Empathie</a></h2>
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<span class="meta-prep meta-prep-author">Geplaatst op</span> <a href="/misleide-empathie/" title="13:39" rel="bookmark"><span class="entry-date">10 december 2014</span></a> <span class="meta-sep">door</span> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="/author/paul-jansen/" title="Alle berichten tonen van Paul Jansen">Paul Jansen</a></span> </div><!-- .entry-meta -->
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<p><a href="/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/spreukentegel_Onwetendheid_is_de_moeder_van_alle_kwaden_1381417004_original_1.jpg"><img loading="lazy" class="alignleft wp-image-190 size-medium" src="/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/spreukentegel_Onwetendheid_is_de_moeder_van_alle_kwaden_1381417004_original_1-300x300.jpg" alt="spreukentegel_Onwetendheid_is_de_moeder_van_alle_kwaden_1381417004_original_1" width="300" height="300" srcset="/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/spreukentegel_Onwetendheid_is_de_moeder_van_alle_kwaden_1381417004_original_1-300x300.jpg 300w, /wp-content/uploads/2014/12/spreukentegel_Onwetendheid_is_de_moeder_van_alle_kwaden_1381417004_original_1-150x150.jpg 150w, /wp-content/uploads/2014/12/spreukentegel_Onwetendheid_is_de_moeder_van_alle_kwaden_1381417004_original_1.jpg 691w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /></a>Vanaf de diagnose &#8216;Dementie&#8217; gebeurt er veel te vaak iets heel verkeerds. Terwijl jij en je naasten nog worstelen met het verwerken van die diagnose zetten sommigen, helaas vaak ook zogenaamde professionals, meteen een schakelaar om: de dementie-schakelaar. Zij denken dat het klopt om dementie als een <em>binaire</em> zaak te beschouwen; je hebt het of je hebt het niet. Of nog erger: je <em>bent</em> het (dement) of je <em>bent</em> het niet. Onder deze simpelheid ligt natuurlijk onwetendheid* maar daar zijn zijzelf het meestal niet mee eens; zij zijn immers de professionals&#8230; <a href="/misleide-empathie/#more-183" class="more-link">Lees verder <span class="meta-nav">&rarr;</span></a></p>
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<span class="meta-prep meta-prep-author">Geplaatst op</span> <a href="/compassiezorg/" title="17:17" rel="bookmark"><span class="entry-date">3 december 2014</span></a> <span class="meta-sep">door</span> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="/author/paul-jansen/" title="Alle berichten tonen van Paul Jansen">Paul Jansen</a></span> </div><!-- .entry-meta -->
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<p><a href="/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/House-hugh-laurie-5450677-1024-768.jpg"><img loading="lazy" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-177" src="/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/House-hugh-laurie-5450677-1024-768-300x265.jpg" alt="House-hugh-laurie" width="300" height="265" srcset="/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/House-hugh-laurie-5450677-1024-768-300x265.jpg 300w, /wp-content/uploads/2014/12/House-hugh-laurie-5450677-1024-768-768x679.jpg 768w, /wp-content/uploads/2014/12/House-hugh-laurie-5450677-1024-768.jpg 869w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /></a>Mijn voorstel is dat we alle zorgsoorten afschaffen en allemaal vervangen voor één zorg: <strong><em>compassiezorg</em></strong>. Laat ik het even uitleggen: <a href="/compassiezorg/#more-174" class="more-link">Lees verder <span class="meta-nav">&rarr;</span></a></p>
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<span class="meta-prep meta-prep-author">Geplaatst op</span> <a href="/sympathie-empathie-compassie-het-verschil/" title="04:16" rel="bookmark"><span class="entry-date">17 november 2014</span></a> <span class="meta-sep">door</span> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="/author/paul-jansen/" title="Alle berichten tonen van Paul Jansen">Paul Jansen</a></span> </div><!-- .entry-meta -->
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<p>Onlangs kreeg ik een vraag over het verschil tussen empathie en compassie. Aanleiding was dat Erik Scherder empathie een &#8216;hersenfunctie&#8217; noemt en zelfs de oorsprong van empathie in de hersenen kan aanwijzen terwijl ik, vanuit de dualistische stellingname van mijn boek &#8216;Wij zijn ons Hart&#8217;, medemenselijkheid niet tot een mechanisch proces (lees: een hersenproces) beperk. De oorspronkelijke vraag grijp ik daarom graag aan om de vraag &#8216;Wat is het verschil tussen <em>empathie</em>, <em>sympathie</em> en <em>compassie</em>?&#8217; te beantwoorden. Want deze drie begrippen zijn geen synoniemen van elkaar: er zijn wezenlijke verschillen.  <a href="/sympathie-empathie-compassie-het-verschil/#more-163" class="more-link">Lees verder <span class="meta-nav">&rarr;</span></a></p>
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<h2 class="entry-title"><a href="/hoe-dementie-voelt/" rel="bookmark">Hoe Dementie voelt.</a></h2>
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<span class="meta-prep meta-prep-author">Geplaatst op</span> <a href="/hoe-dementie-voelt/" title="01:42" rel="bookmark"><span class="entry-date">16 november 2014</span></a> <span class="meta-sep">door</span> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="/author/paul-jansen/" title="Alle berichten tonen van Paul Jansen">Paul Jansen</a></span> </div><!-- .entry-meta -->
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<p>Gisteren, op straat in Seoul, de hoofdstad van Zuid-Korea, realiseerde ik me: &#8220;zo moet dementie dus voelen&#8221;. Laat ik dat even uitleggen.</p>
<p>Mijn zoon Dave woont al jaren in Seoul. Twee maanden geleden is hij daar zelfs getrouwd. Met een Koreaanse. Mijn vrouw Carla, mijn zoon Jeroen en ik waren daar toen bij. Vorige week verraste Dave me met een uitnodiging om naar hem toe te komen, nu niet als vader die zijn zoon mag trouwen en als tourist, maar als buitenlander die (even) in Korea zijn werk doet. Naast het lopende werk kon ik mijn nieuwe lezing/presentatie &#8220;Dementiewijs™ &#8211; Wat Iedereen Moet Weten&#8221;<a title="De Presentatie" href="/dementiewijs_presentatie.htm" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">*</a> op het kantoor waar hij werkt afmaken. Een werk-trip dus. Dus twee dagen later was ik in Korea. Alleen. Werken! <a href="/hoe-dementie-voelt/#more-157" class="more-link">Lees verder <span class="meta-nav">&rarr;</span></a></p>
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<h2 class="entry-title"><a href="/ik-zal-je-niet-missen/" rel="bookmark">Ik zal je niet missen&#8230;</a></h2>
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<span class="meta-prep meta-prep-author">Geplaatst op</span> <a href="/ik-zal-je-niet-missen/" title="11:37" rel="bookmark"><span class="entry-date">2 november 2014</span></a> <span class="meta-sep">door</span> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="/author/paul-jansen/" title="Alle berichten tonen van Paul Jansen">Paul Jansen</a></span> </div><!-- .entry-meta -->
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<p>Glen Campbell heeft de ziekte van Alzheimer. Zijn laatste lied gaat daarover. Hieronder zowel mijn vertaling van de tekst van dit prachtige lied als de uitvoering door Glen Campbell zelf:</p>
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<p>This is the &#8216;letter&#8217; that I read out loud at the wedding ceremony of Dave and Younhee in Seoul, Korea on september 25, 2014</p>
<p>annyeong haseyo.</p>
<p>It is very special for my wife, for my youngest son and for me to be here in Korea to witness the beginning of the long and happy marriage beween our son Dave and the lovely Younhee. I have been asked to give some solid advice to my son and to my new daughter. Fortunately I am very old and therefore I am very wise. So here is my wise advice.</p>
<p><a href="/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/2014-09-24-10.37.17.jpg"><img loading="lazy" class="alignleft wp-image-148 size-medium" src="/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/2014-09-24-10.37.17-300x197.jpg" alt="2014-09-24 10.37.17" width="300" height="197" srcset="/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/2014-09-24-10.37.17-300x197.jpg 300w, /wp-content/uploads/2014/09/2014-09-24-10.37.17-768x505.jpg 768w, /wp-content/uploads/2014/09/2014-09-24-10.37.17.jpg 960w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /></a>Younhee, my dear new daughter.<br />
We have come to know you a little bit. We like you very much already, you are a beautifull and lovable young lady. To me you already are a shining sparkle of happyness and chearfylness in the midst of the seemingly very serious Korean society, of which we still know so little. My advice to you is to sherish your ability to laugh at events, at situations and even at life itself. This combined with the depth of your seriousness that you also possess will give you the two wings that will enable you to fly.</p>
<p>Dave, my dear son,<br />
We know the specialness of you all to well. You are an old soul whose wisdom may even, in time, rival that of your father. From the Dutch society, often associated only with frivolity, yet came your solemn sense of importance and responability. My advice to you is to sherish your ability to see the importance in the midst of superficiality. This, combined with the fresh breath of your frivolity and humor that you master will give you the two wings that will enable you to fly.</p>
<p>To both Younhee and Dave. And you all may listen in.<br />
From my own experience with my own marriage of 38 years, and counting, I wish to share a big secret. The secret is: Love by itself will not do. Respect by itself will not do. Not even love and respect together will do. Only love, only respect, based upon true friendschip will do. <a href="/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/toon.hermans.2.425.jpg"><img loading="lazy" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-151" src="/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/toon.hermans.2.425-265x300.jpg" alt="toon.hermans.2.425" width="265" height="300" srcset="/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/toon.hermans.2.425-265x300.jpg 265w, /wp-content/uploads/2014/09/toon.hermans.2.425.jpg 425w" sizes="(max-width: 265px) 100vw, 265px" /></a>A friend is, in the words of a famous Dutchman, somebody quiet and sincere who, when it realy matters, will pray for you or fight for you. A vriend is someone who laughs and who cries with you. And then, als a wiser man then I once explained, when two mature persons are true friends and are also in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens. One of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality. In fact, it enhances it: they become more individual. You help each other to become more free. There is no power involved, no effort to dominate, no politics. That is just the great secret of a great marriage. So whatever you do, be eachothers friend before anything else.<br />
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<p>Vorige week hebben we afscheid genomen van mijn moeder. Ze is 90 jaar geworden. Inmiddels ruim 13 jaar geleden schreef ik een heuse brief aan mijn moeder. Ik sta nog steeds achter elk woord dat ik toen schreef:  <a href="/brief-aan-mijn-moeder/#more-142" class="more-link">Lees verder <span class="meta-nav">&rarr;</span></a></p>
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<span class="meta-prep meta-prep-author">Geplaatst op</span> <a href="/afscheid-van-mijn-moeder/" title="11:00" rel="bookmark"><span class="entry-date">26 augustus 2014</span></a> <span class="meta-sep">door</span> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="/author/paul-jansen/" title="Alle berichten tonen van Paul Jansen">Paul Jansen</a></span> </div><!-- .entry-meta -->
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<p>Het kleine toespraakje dat ik op dinsdag 26 augustus om 10 uur heb gehouden tijdens de crematieplechtigheid voor mijn overleden moeder.<br />
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<p>Aan José heb ik beloofd dat ik het vandaag een beetje luchtig zou houden dus wil ik het met jullie hebben over de erfenis van mijn moeder.</p>
<p>Ik bedoel: ik wil graag met jullie delen wat mijn moeder, volgens mij persoonlijk, in de afgelopen 90 jaar voor verschil heeft gemaakt in mijn, in het leven. Hoe de vrouw, echtgenote, moeder, dochter, oma, zus, grootmoeder, vriendin; hoe de mens Dora Tax de wereld een beetje beter en mooier heeft achtergelaten dan toen ze hier ruim 90 jaar geleden kwam.</p>
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<p>Een van de meest inspirerende TED-talks die ik ooit hoorde/zag. En ja, Brené Brown spreekt over het Hart, over &#8216;the Wholehearted&#8217;. Hoe dan ook: zeer warm aanbevolen:</p>
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