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<span class=outlineNumberFirst>6.9.14 </span><span class=topicLineFirst>Anger</span>
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<div class="topicTextNotes"><div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="5"><span style="font-size:18pt"><b>Triggering anger</b></span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Anger happens when
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I am frustrated from achieving my goals. This may be a repeated thing,
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with each occurrence stoking the anger I am repressing until I cannot hold it in any more.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Anger is often
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an response to an insult to me or my friends. It is thus a defending action against
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an attack on my identity.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Anger is generally
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past-focused. That is, we are more often angry at things that have already
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happened. Even when I am angry about the future, it often is triggered by my putting myself into
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further into the future and looking back at a 'future perfect' event that 'has happened'.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="5"><span style="font-size:18pt"><b>The power of
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anger</b></span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Anger can be a
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very powerful way of getting what you want, especially in the short term.
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Indeed, this is one of the key reasons why it exists. When a chimpanzee displays anger, it is
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signalling to others that the subject in hand is very important to it, and it is ready to fight for
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it.
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Unless other chimpanzees are prepared to duel, maybe to the death, then they are more likely
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to back down.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Anger is also the
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last response of a cornered victim, and many a mild- mannered person has
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turned into a raging hulk when they feel there is no alternative. The surprise they create in their
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oppressors is often so great it gives them the winning hand.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Anger also gives
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a general power signal that does not need to be used that often, as other
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peace-loving people will generally tend to back down before a person they know has a
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tendency to anger. A 'look' is often all it takes.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Anger can also
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be a positive long-term energiser, such as when a teenager decides to 'show' his
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parents that he is not the lazy slob they seem to think he is.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="5"><span style="font-size:18pt"><b>The hazard of
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anger</b></span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Although there
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are short-term gains to be had with anger, there are also a number of hazards.
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First, your bluff may be called and you can get into losing battles. A reason for this is that as
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anger boils over into rage you can easily lose all judgement and control and hence take on an
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opponent who can easily give you a good pasting (or hurt someone you do not want to hurt).</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Anger and the effective
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attack (physical or psychological) can also gain you enemies. Even
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someone you have beaten and who now seems to be your friend is probably waiting for the
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moment when they can safely take their revenge.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="5"><span style="font-size:18pt"><b>Displacement</b></span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">As anger is so
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hazardous, we often find other ways to vent it, displaced either in time or
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location. For example a person who is frustrated at work may be angry with their family, or
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perhaps will avoid this by going for a run immediately when they get home.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Displacement is
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a huge source of continued human strife, as we pass on our anger to other
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people, who do likewise.</span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="6"><span style="font-size:24pt"><b>So what?</b></span></font><span></span></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size:12pt">Avoid arousing
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the anger of people who can damage you. You can, however, use their anger.
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One way is to redirect it at other people. Another approach is to let them get angry and then
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play the hurt party. When they cool down they will need to apologies and you can ask for what
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you really want from them as a condition for forgiveness.</span></font><span></span></div></div>
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